Question Asker:
Relationship/Trust issues?
I am seeing a guy. We aren't technically "dating", but we are sleeping together. I have known him for years and we were best friends. Then, he started dating this girl for about a year. They broke up a little over a month ago. That's when I came in. He says he doesn't want a serious relationship... but we are together a lot, and we have sex. I found out that he was receiving "favors" from another mutual friend of ours. I was so upset. Now he tells me that it was before we started hanging out. Other friends hint around like he is lying to me, but I can't get a straight answer out of anyone but him... I have always trusted him. He has never given me a reason not too. I'm not sure what to believe... I know you don't know the whole situation in great detail, but I need some advice on what to do. Do I sound like one of those girls who's guy is cheating right in front of their face, but they don't want to believe it?
Joanna's Answer:
You have to first decide what YOU want in a relationship.
You matter !
You have to then decide if what YOU want, if he also desires that kind of relationship as well
That is what a real relationship is about.
You are giving physical intimacy to someone in the wrong order.
Relationships work best when there is a MUTUAL understanding between the two people involved.
If he desires to sleep with other people aside from you and has stated he does not want a serious relationship, Then you need to decide if you want that too
.
There is a simple law :
you do not own anyone and no one owns you.
He can do what he wants
It is only your job to decide if whether or not you wish to put up with it.
other than that he has no obligation to account to you for his behavior unless you both mutually set the relationship up with those parameters in mind.
Asker's Rating:
5 out of 5
Asker's Comment:
Thanks! I told him that I couldn't keep going with the way things are. We still hang out but we are saving the physical stuff so I don't get attached. We realized we weren't on the same page... Great advice! thanks!
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"The possibility that the mind might function at distance, outside the brain and body and not just in dreams, is taken for granted in what we call "native "cultures. David Uniapon, A native Australian, described in the early 1900s described how the use of smoke signals depended on a nonlocal function of consciousness. Western travelers who witnessed this custom assumed that some sort of code was involved with the signal. Not so, Uniapon explained; the function of the smoke signal was only to get everyone's attention so that distant, mind to-mind communications might take place. He might want to give his brother, who might be twenty miles away, a message; so he would set to and make a smoke signal, and then sit
down and concentrate on his brother. The column of smoke would be seen by all the blacks for miles around, and they would all concentrate their minds, and put their brains into a state of receptivity. Only, his brother could get in touch with him and he could then suggest to his [brother] the message which he wished to convey."You can in the same way direct your mind into a state of transmission to send messages and also into a state of receptivity to receive them. This audiocassette gives you the process to do this for yourself. You can use this tape to reach out to a specific person or to transmit a signal to trigger helpful people or the best man or woman to come into your life. You do not necessarily need to have specific details on the person or people you are trying to attract into your life. Just by shifting your focus and tapping into the power your mind already has. This group is to support the users of this audio series.
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